If you are thinking of divorce and wonder “Can A Marriage Counselor Save My Marriage?” this post is for you. There are many therapists who say they do marriage counseling, but how do you know which ones are really good? In this post I will give you a checklist of things to look for in a family therapist.
Firstly, you want to see what their credentials are. There are three basic classes of counselors.
The first kind of counselors is the Ph.D. or Psy.D. level counselor. These people went to graduate school for a minimum of five years and wrote a dissertation. In addition, they performed a minimum of 3000 hours of therapy under the supervision of an experienced psychologist. In order to legally call yourself a “clinical psychologist” the personneed to have a doctoral level degree. Ph.D.’s are often more academic in nature and tend to do scholarly and forensic work along with therapy.
The second type of counselors are the M.S.W. This means Master of Social Work. Social Workers are trained to apply social theory to specific situations. They can work in institutions or with individuals.
The third type of marriage counselors is the M.S. or M.A. in Counseling. Often called a “Marriage and Family Therapist,” these people can only work with individuals or small groups in counseling situations. They tend to have 2 year degrees and may not have written a thesis. They have 1500 hours of therapy under supervision.
If you are using your insurance to cover your marriage counseling, your insurance company will probably direct you to an MSW or a Marriage and Family Therapist because they are cheaper.
Second, you have to determine what the price will be. Clinical psychologists tend to be the most expensive while Marriage and Family Therapists are the least expensive. Remember you are trying to stop your divorce and save your marriage by finding the best fit not the most (or least) expensive professional.
Look at the per session cost as well as the overall cost for the expected length of treatment.
Often, therapists working in groups or non profit institutions will have a sliding scale fee based on a couple’s income. If you qualify, this might make counseling affordable when it otherwise might not be.
The third thing that you need to look at the policies the therapist has. Some of these policies include the following:
- Is there an alternative person you can call in an emergency situation?
-What happens if you miss or cancel one or more sessions?
-Will the therapist accept calls outside of the normal session? Do they accept calls at home or just at the office?
-Can you take a pre-planned vacation without having to pay for the session?
A family counselor should help you put your family back together so that you don’t have split up. Stop the divorce and saving your marriage should be their ultimate goal. If you don’t feel that you are in synch with your counselor, move on and find someone who can keep you from divorce and save marriage.
I hope that this post helped you to answer the question: “Can A Marriage Counselor Save My Marriage?”
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