If you want to win your ex girlfriend back here is a the situation of John and Tami that might help you.

Tami was busy one night and John went to a party alone.  It was stupid, but he started to make out with one of Tami’s best friends there.  Tami, of course, heard about it and had a very dramatic confrontation with John.

“I never want to see you again,” she said.  “I hate you.”

John’s devastated.  He knows he was wrong, but he wants to know how to win his ex girlfriend back.  He misses Tami a lot.

The first thing John needs to do is sincerely apologize.  This is not just a quietly mumbled “I’m sorry” either.  He needs to realize what he did so wrong, figure out why he did what he did, decide whether he will ever do it again, and most importantly, communicate all of this honestly to Tami.

At this point, John should stop.  The ball is now in Tami’s court.

John shouldn’t call Tami.  He shouldn’t email, text, or comment on her wall.  He shouldn’t send her ex girlfriend flowers or candy.

What he should do is let his ex girlfriend make the next move.  She is 100 percent in control here.  If John goes out to score, he’s going to lose her.  If he wants to know how to win ex girlfriend back, he needs to be planning for the next step not focusing on the present.

At some point, Tami will initiate contact.  There are many excuses  for doing this.  For example, she may be mad and want to exchange all personal property.  Or, she could be missing him and just want to talk.

At this specific point, John needs to make his move.  He needs to show to his ex girlfriend that he’s the one.

He should put the incident behind him.  John should only bring up what happened if she does first.

Otherwise, he should talk about the positive memories that they have had together.  He should bring up specific incidents that were special for him and for his ex girlfriend.

One example is that  he could say, “I was walking around downtown and I saw the restaurant we went to on our first date and I thought of you.”

If he keeps it casual, he can talk about missing her.  “I miss the way you laugh at my corny jokes,” is a good line.  Telling his ex girlfriend that he can’t imagine life without her is a bad one.

If she’s receptive, and she probably will be (why else is she calling to him?) John should suggest a casual get together.  For instance, he should ask his ex girlfriend to meet him for coffee or something similar.  A one hour mini-date might get things back on track for both of them.

If he plays it right, he will have found the right solution to the” how to win ex girlfriend back dilemma.”

Like you see, sometimes the best thing is to let your ex girlfriend making the first move after the break up.

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