There are just few things that are more painful than having your heart broken. 
Both men, women, boys and girls experience the pain of breaking up. Sometimes you are the one who called it off and other times your ex did, but in either case, there is pain on both sides. And, sometimes the break up happened for good reasons while other times it seemed to go up in a puff of smoke for no reason at all. These may be the most painful of all.
If you don’t go about getting over the break up though, there can be some serious consequences. Don’t fall into the trap of lingering over a lost love. The worst trap of all is to start to write a “victim story” that makes you the protagonist in a tale of love gone bad.
Firstly, you should realize that if you don’t get over your ex, it will be toxic to any future relationship you might have.
Second thing is to realize that you can’t run away from it, medicate it, or suppress it. You have to face the pain head on and deal with it.
There’s no way out of a broken heart. There’s only a way through it. Accept that there is going to be pain. Use the time during this period to understand the hurt. Some ways to do this are to write in a journal, get counseling, or pour your heart out in song. You must understand that there are no quick solutions to getting over break up.
Next, you need to check exactly whether there is anything in your past that would have lead to this break up. For instance, did the abuse in your childhood cause you to be an abuser in this relationship? Take note of those things because they will help you foster healthier relationships in the future.
Don’t paint yourself as the victim of the relationship either. Take responsibility for your actions. While the other side may have been the one whose “fault” was the immediate cause of the break up, the truth is that the underlying circumstances were caused by both of you.
By getting rid of your “victim story” you become a healthier, more attractive partner for a future boyfriend or girlfriend. You’ll begin to see that your “victim story” was composed of beliefs, attitudes and thoughts that color your perceptions about almost anything. It becomes a self fulfilling prophesy.
When you handle your broken heart badly, you perpetuate your pain. You’ll never go about getting over break up.
But, when you can handle your emotions with the ultimate goal of letting them go, you will be cure.
Getting over a broken heart takes work. It also takes time. Don’t underestimate the factors which go into curing your heartbreak.
You’ve just lost a person who was extremely important to your life. But, use this time for growth and you will become a stronger person and have better relationships in the future. Learn from this advice and getting over break up when your heart is broken will be a lot easier for you.
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