Did your girlfriend break up with you recently?  Well, you are not the first guy to go through this.  In fact, girls initiate three quarters of the break ups while guys only dump the girl in one quarter of the similar situations.  That’s why guys have to deal with being dumped far more often than girls do.

Compounding the problem is the impression that men are supposed to deal with their emotions stoically.  While women are allowed to dissect every part of their relationship, men are expected to roll with the punches.

But this doesn’t mean that men don’t have emotions too.  They hurt when women dump them, sometimes a lot.  A girlfriend break up is quite painful.

First of all, men tend to place more value on stable relationships than women do.  While a man might be interested in a fling with a woman who is not his girlfriend, what he really wants is someone who will be there for him  in good times and bad ones.

But, once your girlfriend has dumped you, it’s important to figure out how to pick up the pieces and go on with your life with or without her.

First of all, you should find some way to express yourself.  Girls can do this by writing poetry or talking about the relationship endlessly with their friends.  Men often don’t feel comfortable with these options.  But, if you play the guitar or piano, try writing some music that allows you to express your feelings.  There are so many great songs about the pain of breaking up if you think about it.

Next, you need to clear out your place of all of the things that remind you of her.  If she has clothes at your house, give them back.  Throw away the toothbrush that she brought to your home .  And, if she’s given you any gifts that you want to keep, box them up for the time being until you can look at them again without having turbulent emotions.

You will want to close off communications with her, at least for the short term.  If either of you owe the other money, try to settle up so that won’t be an avenue for talking.

Then tell your ex that you want some distance for a while.  That means no calls, texts, or emails.  Stay off each other’s myspace, facebook and this kind of pages.  In time, you may be able to be friends again, but right now you both need to give each other the space to heal and recover.

Then, you need to get out of your home.  Make a point of playing pick up basketball with your friends.  Go out to a bar from time to time.  Become a big brother to an underprivileged kid.

Then, start to get back into the dating scene once again.  At first, you can have some casual dates that may not lead to anything.  But, over time, you will meet someone you really care about.  And, at that point, you will know that you have some closure about your old relationship.  You won’t be worried about your old girlfriend break up any more.

Yes, girlfriend break up is not easy but these tips will make it a lot easier for you.

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